Is your husband getting the fatherly credit he deserves?
So often I hear women laughing about how their husband’s aren’t capable of watching their kids.
So often I hear women saying they can’t leave their kids with their husbands.
So often I see women calling their husbands several times during the time they’re away from home to check in to make sure everything is ok. Making sure of what I’m not sure? That their kids are still alive? Their kids are being fed, changed, entertained, etc?
So often I hear some women saying that their husband has nothing to do with the parenting. That his job is to work, and come home and play with the kids and nothing else.
Trust me… I’ve heard more. Some women I’ve known won’t even leave their kids at home with their husband’s because they don’t trust him to take care of their kids when she isn’t home to make sure he’s doing it right.
I’ve been thinking about this lately, because I’ve caught myself a couple times tell my husband what I need him to do. But my husband just looks at me and says, “Babe, I know how to take care of a baby!” Then I think to myself, “Well, DUH! Of course he does! This is his THIRD baby!” But even when our first child, Angelina, was a baby he was super involved and very helpful. I would leave Angelina with him so I could go get some “me” time and of course he did excellent!
The point is… I really wish more women would give their husband the fatherly credit they deserve. Most men who can procreate have an excellent ability to take care of their offspring! This is what I just don’t understand! Why marry someone whom you don’t trust explicitly? If you can’t leave your children at home with your man, then why did you marry him in the first place? That may sound harsh, but I whole heartedly believe that. I believe our children’s fathers are really given the short end of the stick. Just because they can’t breastfeed the baby doesn’t mean they can’t hold the baby while you shower, do something around the house or change his/her diaper. Need a girls night out? Why can’t your husband take care of the kids? Pump and freeze your breast milk for him. And if you have older kids, I’m positive he could figure out what to feed them! I’m not pointing any fingers in this post, I’m just making a general statement, because frankly, I want my husband to be as much a part of my kid’s lives as I am. And he is more than capable to take care of our kids when I’m not around. And I’m important enough to have time to myself – even if that just means a trip to Target to get diapers alone, or getting a nice soak in the tub with a good book and some wine! Men are NOT useless when they become dads! If anything they’re more capable! And have you seen your husband interact with your (and his) kids? There is nothing like it. A love between a dad and their child. Sigh. Nothing compares. And I’ll tell you what… the more kids we have had, the more I notice the intricacies of his love. The amount of love he oozes for our kids. It’s an awesome sight to behold. And I know I need to be sure to tell him more often how great of a dad I think he truly is.